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Let them fail often

“Plowing through one’s own problems and pushing through frustration are valuable life skills which help kids grow into resilient adults. It can be difficult for parents to let offspring pave their own way.”
Christina DesMaraisInc.com

In the movie Batman Begins, Alfred Pennyworth reminds Bruce about a very important lesson that his dad taught him. As a young child, Bruce fell into a dry well and was attacked by a swarm of bats. Bruce’s dad asked, “Why do we fall?” his dad answered his own question with, “so we can learn to pick ourselves up.” This is a very important lesson that all children should learn. Children have to know that it is okay to fail. Our “True Character” is built through the obstacles we face and how we respond to our successes and failures.

As a parent, teacher, and leader we have to allow those in our charge space and freedom to explore their capabilities so they can stretch pass their personal mental and physical limits to grab hold of their REAL potential. As a teacher when a student is FINALLY able to see the GREATNESS that is inside of him/herself those are the moments that remind us of WHY we do what we do.

For example, in my classroom, I like to share with my students what their final assignment will be so they are mentally prepared for what is to come. Those of us in education know this as “keeping the end in mind through backwards design.” I remember it like it was yesterday. I shared with my students the writing prompt that they would have to write a 3-5 page essay about and the class became as silent as a graveyard.

One brave student, Henry P., could not hold his fear inside. Henry raised a quiet hand and said, “Mr. Wesley, I cannot do that! That is too hard.” I already knew that this assignment was too difficult, but what Henry didn’t know is that I wanted them to STRUGGLE, not because I wanted them to fail, but because I wanted them to realize the potential that is inside of them. I said to Henry, “You are 100% correct! Yes, today you cannot write this essay. But in the next 2 weeks, I will give you every single tool you need to write this paper and prepare you for every other essay you will need to write in your life.” 

Henry made an A- on his essay, and he could not have been more proud. When the class received their essays back I reminded the class of how they thought this paper would be impossible. Yes, they struggled and failed with concepts along the way, but they did not give up. 

If you are not giving your students, children, or even your employees opportunities to FAIL, STRUGGLE, or GET FRUSTRATED then you are doing them a disservice. It is our job as leaders to give them the tools they need to reach their goals and if they fall we will be by their side to cheer them on as they learn to pick themselves up!

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Join the Education Revolution

Wake Up…

In 2001 the No Child Left Behind Act bill was signed and passed through Congress. Different aspects of the bill have been highly debated and criticized. The education systems dislike of the bill has not gone unnoticed. I do not agree with all aspects, if any, of the No Child Left Behind Act, but I do agree that students are being left behind, and something needs to be done. Unfortunately, many adults are about to face a similar situation and it is time to join the Education Revolution. If something does not change many Baby Boomers and Generation Xer’s will be left behind when it comes to the skills needed to perform their job due to the disruptions that are here (not coming, already HERE) because of the advancement in artificial intelligence, robotics, and automation. Baby Boomers and Generation X, this message is for you. IMar Learning Solutions is extending its Millennial hand to help you through the changes that are disrupting your life and career. Continue reading Join the Education Revolution

3 Tips on How to Listen Like a Boss

Be Quick to Listen & Slow to Speak

Ok, let’s be honest, most of us today are not quick to listen or slow to speak. Many of us listen to what we want to hear and we tailor our response based on the key points that relate to the direction we want to take the conversation in. Today, we will all take IMar Learning Solutions Official Listening Oath, “I (Insert your name) do solemnly swear to listen more attentively, give feedback based on what was actually said (not what I was thinking about while the other person was speaking), and I will work on being quick to listen and slow to speak.” Imagine how your relationship with your husband or wife would grow if you listened more attentively, imagine how society could improve if more citizens listened to hear and not just respond, or how world leaders could end wars by first stopping to listen to understand the other sides point of view. Continue reading 3 Tips on How to Listen Like a Boss

Are You a Victim of the Skills Gap?

Finding the Job Skills Sweet Spot

In Francesca Levy and Christopher Cannon’s job study, The Bloomberg Job Skills Report: What Recruiters Want, Bloomberg.com asked 1,251 job recruiters at 547 companies about the skills they want that are either rare or they cannot find in employees. Cannon and Levy call these skills the “Sweet Spot Skills” and they are creative problem solving, leadership skills, strategic thinking and communication skills. Continue reading Are You a Victim of the Skills Gap?